I'm feeling embarrassed and upset over something MINOR that was nevertheless embarrassing and upsetting.
Edward's lunch has been a problem since the first day of school. His lunchbox comes back with one bite taken out of his sandwich, and he says it just doesn't TASTE right. About a month ago I came up with what I thought was a clever plan: a bunch of little nutritious snacks instead of A Sandwich. It worked well: his lunchbox started coming home with evidence of him having eaten something in the 7.5 hours he'd been away.
But yesterday at lunchtime, the school secretary called, saying Edward's teacher had asked her to call to find out "what they should do for Edward's lunch," because "all he had was peanuts, pretzels, and raisins."
I get how when you say it like that it kind of sounds like...snack mix, or something, or somehow "not a real lunch." Especially if you put the words "all he had was" in front of it. But keeping in mind that a peanut butter and jam sandwich would have been a no-explanation-or-phone-call-needed lunch, I think peanuts are a nutritional step up from peanut butter, and I think raisins are a nutritional step up from jam, and I think pretzels are sitting on the step right next to bread.
Luckily, luckily, LUCKILY, I did not do my usual thing where I don't feel like I can defend myself because I'm so worried it will sound like I'm lying. And in fact I just said pretty much exactly what I would have later come up with while lying awake in bed: that Edward had been coming home with only one bite of his sandwich eaten, so I was experimenting to find foods he WOULD eat at school; that I'd thought he could have peanuts for protein and fat, raisins for fruit, and pretzels for carbohydrates. And the secretary sounded perfectly fine with that and said she'd let the teacher know.
So it went PERFECTLY, didn't it? It really did go perfectly. But I'm still fretful because they looked at his lunch and felt it warranted a call to a parent. It doesn't seem like I should have needed to explain that lunch.
The fact that two people DID think so makes me feel upset: they thought I'd made a mistake when I don't think it even LOOKED LIKE I'd made a mistake. I don't like that kind of being at-odds with someone else: I like it when the actions I think are right also LOOK clearly right to other people, without being so uninterpretable that I'd need to explain why it was right.
So even though this actual incident is minor, and went surprisingly well and ended fine, I still sent a sandwich with Edward today. He won't eat it, so I also sent peanuts, raisins, and mini-wheats. But then I'm here feeling unsettled because I sent a STUNT SANDWICH to reassure school teachers/secretaries, and because I still feel unhappy that I had to explain that other lunch.
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