A lot of the party invitations we got this year included email addresses, which is GREAT. Let's have a little appreciative round of applause for this getting more and more widespread.
Some had only phone numbers, but I had the email address from a class list, and used that.
Some had only phone numbers, but I could call while on my way to school pick-up/drop-off, or RIGHT before leaving, knowing the other parent would likely be out of their house at that time. (Note: this plan is dicier now that people put down their cell phone numbers.)
Some only had phone numbers, but I knew the parents from school pick-up/drop-off and could just mention it to them when I saw them.
Some had only phone numbers, but I got lucky and got an answering machine. Or in any case I was RSVP'ing "yes," which is a positive sort of thing to be calling about and has a good exit line ("Okay, so we'll see you on the 5th! Okay, bye!").
This week I had one where there was only a phone number, I didn't have a class list, I didn't have the parents' names---AND, I was RSVP'ing a no. It's a much more awkward call. There is the potential for accidentally falling into the nervous pitfall of over-explaining the reason for not attending, even though no one cares and the explanation usually makes it worse. And I haven't yet thought of a good exit line. "Okay, so then...I guess I...won't be seeing you at any point soon, ha ha nervous laugh. I hope she has a good party...even though we won't be there...I mean, not that I'm trying to say our presence was essential ha ha nervous laugh."
Here is the idea I finally thought of and used: the party was a home party, so the home address was on the invitation, so I had the child draw a birthday card and we mailed it. The child included words like "I'm sorry I can't come to your party, and I hope you have a great birthday" along with all the drawings and glitter glue and stickers.
ALSO, I could totally file this under Life Skills Training: the child wrote the address and the return address, put on the stamp, etc., as well as listening to a mini-lecture about always RSVP'ing. AND, the child was the one to handle the RSVP, which is good training for future independence!
I don't have a PHONE ISSUE, psh no! I'm just EAGER TO TRAIN MY CHILDREN!
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