I have either a strong case of denial, or a strong case of disorganization, or a strong case of avoidance, or perhaps some sort of unholy trifecta situation, because William's big birthday party is a week from today and I haven't even sent out the invitations.
I'm appalled, and yet "being appalled" did not have its usual mobilizing effect: even though I started being appalled a week ago today (when I thought, "OMG, the party is in two weeks and I haven't even sent out the invitations!"), it was only yesterday that we printed out the invitations, and only today that we put them in envelopes and bought the stuff for the favor bags. "Panic" was apparently required for this.
One of the major immobilizing issues for me has been this: The school has in previous years (though not this year, I don't think) reminded parents that invitations can't be handed out at school unless everyone in the class is invited---but I don't have the addresses of William's classmates, so....? I could have William get each address, and I guess that would be the only option, but doesn't that draw EVEN MORE attention to the party? I see what the school is trying to do here, but I'm not sure they've thought this out.
What I did was lecture William for an entire 20-minute car ride on the importance of kindness and discretion. We discussed that he should hand over each invitation as inconspicuously as possible, with a quiet "Not everyone is being invited, so..." And if any classmates confronted him about not being invited, he could blame us, saying "My parents would only let me invite a certain number of people," which should be said in kind and regretful tones, not defensive and angry ones.
But this has brought to my attention another problem: I can't call parents to nag them about RSVPing, because I DON'T HAVE ANYONE'S PHONE NUMBER EITHER. Which I guess is just as well, since William won't be handing out the invitations until tomorrow, and that doesn't really give enough time for a decent RSVP window followed by another batch of invitations and a second decent RSVP window. Anyone who gets invited on, say, Friday, is going to think either, "Oh, I see: second string" or else "Who issues invitations two days before a party??"
But then, what about the thank-you notes? I suppose those too will have to be brought discreetly to school. ACK.
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