I read a really good post recently (THANK YOU, Steph!) by a girl who wrote about what it's like to be fat. I came away from that post thinking about how right she was: that shame as a motivational tool has already been maximized; that maybe we don't know why some people are hungrier than others or store fat better than others or have less willpower/motivation than others---but that none of that matters when what we're talking about is one group of people treating another group of people badly. Do you know what's a worse character flaw than being fat? ANYTHING THAT IS A CHARACTER FLAW.
I came away from the article feeling understood, and like I had heard a voice of common sense rising over the "Everyone is skinny by default so you must be REALLY screwing up if you're fat!" crowd. I also felt motivated to think things in a new way---to stop thinking all the time "Must! Lose! Weight!" and instead apply the "Something is better than nothing" principle I'm always trying to work on, and to do it in this way: "I may not be able to make my body smaller, but I can still eat broccoli to help prevent cancer. I may not be able to make my body smaller, but I can still exercise to improve my blood pressure and knee flexibility."
Then I read part of the comments section. And it infected me like a virus: I feel nauseated, exhausted, feverish, like I need to stay in bed. Life looks grey; it's hard to manage my usual routine.
Sometimes when people direct your attention to a comments section, it's because they want you too to read it, so that you will agree with them and add your own comments for their side. In this case, I am telling you so that you will stay away from it: Warning! Pile of dangerous infectious biological material on the floor! Go around, go around!
The people in that comments section have a far worse problem than "ugly rolls of fat." They have a part of them that's hateful and ugly and disgusting and unhealthy, and it's inside of them. A brief exposure to it has made me sick for days. It's particularly appalling that they don't know it's rot: they think they're perfectly healthy and normal, so they're continually exposing others to it.
If you have been made ill by contact with people infected by this disease, I'm afraid treatment is very difficult. DO read the post I'm talking about, because it may soothe the pain of past contacts---but avoid re-exposure from the comments section. Think of them the way Paul told me to think of the underside of a lawnmower: as a pack of rabid weasels with knives.
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