What is the standard for sending Christmas cards? I send them to out-of-town friends and family, but I don't send them to people I see often (say on a weekly or even monthly basis). Is this rude? Should I send them to everyone? Of course, if an in-town friend or family member send a card (this happens VERY rarely), I send one back, but I don't have them pegged in my original Christmas card list. Thoughts?
My GUESS is that there is no standard at all: i.e., that every person you ask will have a different answer, ranging from "I don't even send one to my mother" all the way to "I also send one to each kid at our bus stop, and to the UPS guy, and to the grocery store manager." And I'll bet there are tons of different things like "I send to aunts/uncles but not to my cousins" and "I send to friends but not co-workers."
It probably depends a lot on a person's reasons for sending cards: a card can be a wish for a happy holiday, or a way to keep in touch, or way to meet an obligation, or a vehicle to transport new family photos, or all kinds of things. And it probably also depends on a person's feelings about cards: some people think of it as a holiday chore, and some people love it and look for excuses to add to the list. And it probably depends a lot on The Way Things Are Done in a person's circle of acquaintances.
The GOAL, I think, is for both people in each relationship to be pleased with whether they exchange cards or not. I have some people I see often that I DO send cards to, and some I don't. I definitely don't think there's anything rude about NOT sending a card to someone.
But now I am VERY INTERESTED to hear how everyone else handles holiday card lists: who's on it, who's not, and do you have categories of people you send to or don't send to?