I am currently using my Newborn Survival Sleep Plan, which took me four babies to perfect. The NSSP takes these things into account:
1) That I can't comfortably sleep lying down for a couple of weeks after a c-section (I like to sleep on my side, which pulls at the incision).
2) That I start losing my mind if I have to repeatedly deal with a crying, crying baby in the middle of the night when I am so tired already, and I hate how that makes me feel about the baby.
3) That in my experience so far, newborns are too dim to learn much from what I do to them at this early stage.
4) That sleep is more valuable to survival and sanity than almost anything else, and that I don't really care what I have to do to get it.
So this is the plan: I sleep in our extremely comfortable La-Z-Swistle recliner, mostly reclined, which is very cozy. If the baby wants to sleep there with me, he may. (He always does.) If I nurse him in the night and fall asleep that way, so be it. (It is always so being it.) Bad habits be damned!
Actually, I'm more nervous about it than I pretend. Who doesn't project forward, imagining that each deviance from your intended path will lead to a permanent, unchangeable, highly regrettable situation? I imagine the baby, two years later, still sleeping only on me and only in the recliner.
But so far I have had great luck with this gamble. What happens is that after a few weeks the baby gets a little heavier, I get a little tired of sleeping in the recliner, my incision heals, and pretty soon I don't feel as much like having a damp hot baby pinning me down all night. I start going down my intended path without even meaning to, feeling naturally inclined to put the baby down in his bassinet instead of automatically going back to sleep with him on me. I recover from the surgery and am less desperate for sleep, and so I can tolerate a little nighttime training. Before I know it, the baby's in the bassinet and I'm in bed. (See how it sounds so smooth and easy when I am looking back on how it happened with other babies? Stay tuned to see how it goes in real time.)
But for now, NSSP is in effect, and it is cozy.
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