Paul and I are having a little disagreement, and I'm hoping to add people to my side.
I have heard that if you want to have a tubal ligation at the same time as your c-section, OBs usually have a cut-off date for making that decision. That is, they are not going to allow a 39-weeks-pregnant woman to come hobbling in all swelled up and miserable and say, "Tie those tubes! I'm never having another baby!"
When I heard this, it made perfect sense to me. Many a woman has decided late in pregnancy (or in my case, in the barfing early part of pregnancy) that she never wants to go through this again. Then the baby is here, and the swelling recedes, and time goes by, and a baby starts to seem like a great idea again.
Furthermore, I think I have heard of this "decision cut-off" many times, and from many sources. Unfortunately for my argument with Paul, I could only think of one specific friend who had claimed to have this situation with her OB, and I'm fuzzy on the details because it has been a long time since she told me about it, and she and I aren't friends anymore so I can't call her and ask her. Paul seems to think that every time I hear a fact, I should write down the time, date, and people involved, and then get the document notarized.
You would think that Paul would not care if I claimed incorrectly that some OBs had a certain week before which you had to say you wanted a tubal ligation during your c-section. But he cares very much, it appears, very much indeed. He immediately started plugging terms into search engines, and then saying confidently that he could not find one single reference to any such thing. He demanded, as I've mentioned, to hear my sources--ideally with telephone numbers so that he could interview them himself.
It threatened to turn into a fight, except that I had just eaten a large bowl of chocolate ice cream with crushed oreos (the ice cream microwaved just a few seconds because I read the idea on Jonniker's site--and it is delicious, by the way), and I was feeling mellow, and also I am far too large to storm out of the room, and so I wasn't rising to his challenges, and so eventually he rolled his eyes and went back to playing a computer game, on which he vented his crabbiness instead of doing it at me, to which I say good deal.
I then did a little more searching myself, but all I found were references to a 30-day waiting period in general--that is, unrelated to pregnancy, just that many states and health plans require non-pregnant women to wait 30 days after making the decision before having a tubal ligation.
So here is what I need from you. Ideally, I need first-hand stories about you and about your personal OB, and about your personal OB telling you that he or she would need to know before Week X if you wanted a tubal ligation at the same time as your c-section or else he/she wouldn't do it. If you are without personal stories, secondhand stories are also good. In fact, I'll even take, "I heard one time that some girl..." stories.
Also, in case any of you were wondering what Paul was wondering, this is not something I'm even remotely considering for myself. It was that I wanted to use the cut-off date as an example in an email, and then I got disproportionately interested in the subject when I couldn't quickly find the information I was looking for. Then I made the mistake of mentioning my search difficulties to Paul, and here we are.
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